This episode is particularly striking for how emotionally immature
Carrie can be, and how terrible it is when Big strings her along. It
isn't as bad as the wedding in Season 2 when Carrie thought he was
through with this particular brand of commitment issues, but it is still
terrible.
It begins with a crowded street, so many of the early
episodes of the show involve huge swathes of crowds and tons of people
and it feels so messy and crowded, in a very honest New York way. The
only way it'd be more realistic if they showed New York on trash day.
Yikes.
Carrie and Mr. Big are walking in each others arms and
Narrator Carrie is talking about how much she is in love with Big, she
has completely been absorbed in the gravitational pull that is Mr Big.
Her life rotates so much around him, that she completely neglects her
friends and they seem rather hurt and slightly offended when they *do*
catch up a time later.
Samantha is obsessed with finding an apartment, Miranda is working like a crazy person at her law firm, as usual.
Charlotte
is seriously dating a man (and his dog). Really, the entire
relationship that is shown, the dog is like *right there watching them
make out* and it is weird. it's weird right? I can't even sleep in the
same room as my cat, let alone let her watch me blow my husband.
Speaking of BJs, that is the only problem that Charlotte has with this
Mr. Perfection (and dog)-- the blow job tug of war. I've never won at
that particular game. :p Charlotte refuses to blow her perfect
boyfriend and it is a problem.
The girls have a classic four-way
conversation about BJs. I think this is the first instance of a four-way
on the show that confused me. There are many others and I'll try to
get to all of them as I see them.
See, the women are talking
about BJs, and then out of nowhere, Miranda mentions oral sex, which I
take to mean general fellatio since they were talking about that. She
says "oral sex is like god's gift to women, you can get off without
worrying about getting pregnant" But instead of immediately talking
about cunnilingus, they continue to talk about BJs, and it is after a
few turns that they come back around to talking about reciprocation.
It's like her comment was in the completely wrong part of the
conversation. In context it makes it sound like *she* gets off from
giving guys BJs, and that is just stupid.
But I digress.
Everyone is on the same page by the end.. if you're gonna get all choked up about it, just don't do it. good advice. :nods:
Charlotte's
conclusion: She tells the guy that she doesn't want to give him blow
jobs, because she hates them. He says he's going to have to get them
elsewhere and so she dumps him. The dog is finally happy.
On the
way out of the restaurant, Carrie sees Mr Big with another woman. She
is surprised to see him, since apparently he said that he had a work
thing, but it turns out, it's a date! She is fuming! How could he have
time, emotional energy, and the capacity for dating other people?! She
does her usual slightly passive aggressive thing to get the message
across that she isn't ok with this and leaves in a huff.
In the
next scene, she is pacing and smoking in her apartment alone, seemingly
writing her article for the week. Narrator Carrie says that she and Big
never discussed exclusivity. well, there you go. end of the episode.
j/k.
She
asks in her little column thingy: "has monogamy become too much to
expect?" And I want to shake her. You and he haven't discussed this!
At some point, exclusivity should be brought up.. and hey! what a great
time to bring it up. So she talks with him about it and explains her
feelings and the episode is over. oop. j/k again.
Samantha
is searching for an apartment, going with a real estate agent who
expects her to be exclusive with her. Sam of course isn't a monogamist,
so she goes off with a different agent who shows her other places. I
call bullshit on this. Usually you have to sign a form that says that
you won't work with another broker before they start showing you
places. We did anyway. Maybe not? Anyone have experience in New York?
She and the other agent actually do it in some of the apartments that he shows her. So, it's kinda hot. :p
Sam's
conclusion: She is caught in the act of doing it with the other real
estate agent by the original real estate agent. She and he are actually
in the apartment that she ends up buying, and I don't know why but I
just noticed how remarkably TINY the apartment seems. Carrie's always
seems so sprawling, mostly a closet, TBH, but at least the bedroom is separate, visually, from the kitchen. But anyway. Moving back to the
original plot:
In the next scene, Carrie is having lunch with
Stanford. They are talking about the topic du jour, and he says that
monogamy is on the way out again. Cause of the new Millennium. How
quaint. A friend of Stanny's comes up to them at the bar to talk about
his new book and how he was named one of the coolest people under 30 and
to invite them to his cool party for people under 30. He flirts a bit
with Carrie and she is unimpressed.
Then she's bothered by the
fact that she's unimpressed. It is really pathetic. At home, she gets a
call from Big, who reminds her of their date. She says in a soliloquy
that she thinks she sounds shrill while trying to sound non-committal,
and Mr Big says that he misses her. It is kind of sweet, kinda cocky..
you know the way powerful men are. yughck.
Narrator Carrie says
there are so many things she wants to ask him but won't. for whatever
reason. She'll ask Miranda instead. She'll ask if "I miss you" was Mr
Big's way of saying "sorry" (It's not) and whether Big actually has
feelings for her or if everything that is happening is just projections
of her feelings for him. It is just.. weird and ridiculous. She went
out on a ledge with her feelings, thinking he was on the same page and
he's not. That's all, he's at the same place he was, only now he can
probably "see" how far out she is and is doing nothing to correct the
imbalance.
While they're eating, Skipper shows up with a girl in tow, and they brag a bit about the food they ate
together and Miranda is offended by her presence. Even though she had previously broken it off with him for being young and immature and available to her.
Miranda calls
him later on to ask him out. She is screened by him, because he is
currently in his girlfriend... but he hardly notices, he picks up the
phone when he recognizes Miranda's voice and accepts the invite to
dinner sometime and then *breaks up with girlfriend*.
"You're breaking up with me while you're still inside of me?!"
Poor woman! D:
Miranda's
conclusion: She and Skipper have a fun date, they fuck, and Skipper
reveals that he broke up with his girlfriend the minute that Miranda had
called. Miranda calls him insane, she isn't ready for that kind of
commitment! How very dare he!
I really dislike how Earnest people are shamed. In general. Here, in life. It is a shame. Enthusiasm is the BEST. DAMMIT.
Pictured: my role model
On
the date with Big, some woman accosts him with her mouth and asks for
her passport back. Carrie has mentally counted at least two women that Big
is currently dating and she is getting incredibly pissed about it. A
man comes up to chat with them, a friend of Big's, and Big starts to
introduce her but he is interrupted by the guy calling Carrie "Julie".
Carrie doesn't take it well. Big tries to pick up the mood and take away
some of the awkwardness by describing Carrie and her amazing job. The
man says that dating Big is a great move if she's looking for material.
"Are we dating? I thought we were just sleeping together" she says, immaturely.
"Well, I'm sure after tonight," Big tries to recover the conversation, "we won't be doing much of either"
They
finally have a small conversation a few minutes later about how messed
up Carrie feels he is being and about how jealous she is.
"Come on," He says, being slightly reasonable, "What do you want from me?"
"What
do I want from you?!" she pauses. "Nothing. I don't want anything from
you." she lies. her eyes are glistening with tears. She leaves the
party then, heading out to that 30-under-30 cool party downtown.
She
is invited home by Stanny's friend, the one who invited them to the
party. And before she goes, she calls Big to tell him all about it and I
guess try to make him jealous? She's acting out. She does this a
lot. She does invite Big to take her back, or something? It's like the
middle of the night here. She waits outside for Big for like 45
minutes and it's 3 in the morning. Finally, he shows up and they
realize that they were waiting in the wrong spots for each other for
quite a long while.
Carrie asks him, FINALLY, if he'll date her exclusively and he agrees. and I barf. lol.
But.. here. here is the end of the episode. and the beginning of their relationship?
I'm
honestly not sure. In the end of the second season she talks about how
she was strung along by him for two years and I'm like.. that's really
funny counting there. In the movie, Charlotte says that she and Big
dated for 10 years.. that is *really* funny counting, because I seem to
remember at least 4 of those years she was with other men, and at one
point engaged to another man.
Stay tuned for the next episode next time! Three's a Crowd! All about threesomes! :wolf whistle:
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